Real situations, who sucks & why

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Submit anything below related to the show including comments, AITA situations, PSAs (like if a whole group of people are being a-holes). All submissions are completely anonymous. If you want it posted to the FB group sooner rather than later, specify so. Some people have also wanted to submit pictures (we’d happily video or audio too), you can email us at

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What does #AITA mean?

It’s short for “Am I the Asshole?”

What’s the format of the pod?

We pride ourselves on a “get to the meat” philosophy where we spend less than 2 minutes doing any announcing or riffing up top. Then, we read 2 - 4 curated posts from the subreddit. After each post, we read listener comments and reddit comments. If you want your comments featured, be sure to check out our FB group. After, we try our best to break down the situation, tell related stories and jokes, and have a good time.

After, we read listener submissions. Finally, we will sometimes play games or do segments including: Am I The Hero?, I’m The Asshole, Asshole Watch, and Just Two People Having Human Conversation.

I want to submit. I have a situation. I have something to say.

There’s a form above where you can submit. You can also email us at You can also post directly to the FB group (and it will publish with moderator approval, usually within 24 hours).

What is a YTA?

On the subreddit, a person OP, original poster, will describe a situation where they are curious if #AITA,

After, commenters respond to OP with the following acronyms:

YTA - You’re the asshole (and the other person is not)

NTA - Not the asshole (and other person is)

NAH - No assholes here

ESH - Everyone sucks here (all people are aholes).

SHP - This means shitpost, but is now deprecated- IE people don’t use this anymore as shitposts are deleted. Similarly, we delete shitposts on our facebook group.

Sometimes we slip into using these terms bc we read the reddit a lot, but in general we spell out exactly who’s the ahole and not without being too acronym-y about it.

Who is this for? Why is this happening?

The subreddit describes itself as “a catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us.“ The sub also says “This is NOT an advice sub.” Our pod has a different focus. We tend to focus more on the practical aspects of a situation, how it could’ve been different, and how it all fits together to make someone’s actions right or wrong. Plus, we like to have of fun along the way.

The big question is: “how can we use these situations to affect our own behavior and make better choices in the future?” Our purpose is to gain wisdom and learn from the subreddit, submissions, and our community. But also like to roast people and stuff. It’s just too fun.

Are you on UrbanDictionary? Is this question REALLY frequently asked?

Yes. check out our definition of Principled Petty. This illustrates another idea behind the pod: to slowly develop terms for dealing with real life situations. While moral philosophy deals in high-level ideas like utilitarianism (net good vs net bad) and deontology (non-consequential moral truths), we hope to come up with conversation that is practical af. '“Act by that maxim which you will become universal law” is a bit cumbersome for figuring out what to do after you made an offensive joke at brunch.

Do you have any insights on practical moral philosophy? (said no one ever)

One success we’ve had, small as it may be, is “common courtesy.” After much discussion, common courtesy is any action that society expects you to do, but you don’t get credit for. Typically, neglecting to do a common courtesy makes you an a-hole. Common courtesies include: holding the door open for an old person, giving up your seat to a pregnant lady who needs it, using your blinker, and taking a lost item you found to the appropriate person or place.

So you think you’re like philosophers?

No, we acknowledge we’re idiots! Another big purpose is to develop empathy and understanding of people, mainly so we don’t act like a-holes.

Who came up with the ‘subreddit’?

The subreddit and related terminology was spawned by u/flignir looking to settle a score in his office related to air-conditioning (Mashable).

Who coined the phrase, “Am I the asshole?”

The earliest use we could find online was in 2003. A guy named Ian Glazer wrote a blog post regarding his thoughts on Americans having too many passports. He said, “Frankly, the less fat-ass, ignorant, white-sock wearing, TGI Friday’s eatin’, assmonkies, I have to deal with while I am abroad, the better. Am I the asshole here?“ Personally I say NTA - but that’s neither here nor there.

I have more questions

Feel free to submit any questions to the submit form above. If you’re curious about the subreddit, check out the rules here.


Danny Vega and Anthony O’Connell became friends over food. Anthony’s food blog @UpperFeast is about their neighborhood and they bonded while eating as much as physically possible. Danny said, “Hey man, we should like eat less and start a pod.” Anthony was down. There is a rule on the podcast where Anthony gets ONE @UpperFeast plug per show. If he overdoes it, it’s golf rules as in, 2 mentions is a bogey.

More About Danny Vega

Danny 39 years ago, when he looked better

Danny 39 years ago, when he looked better

Danny’s “claim-to-fame” is his viral video, making fun of his hometown, I’m Walking Here: Casa Grande. It reached the top of all of Reddit for about 42 minutes and is currently the 25th most upvoted video of all time. PLEASE subscribe to his YouTube. Danny has also enjoyed some success on his TikTok (@dannyvegacomedy) and recently hit over 25,000 followers. He also shoots, edits and produces videos/pods for MONEY. Check out his portfolio here.

More About Anthony O’Connell

Let’s pizza party, baby!

Let’s pizza party, baby!

Anthony O'Connell is a Columbus, Ohio native who moved to the Upper East Side of Manhattan in 2014 to pursue his dream of stand-up comedy. 

In October of 2017 he started his foodie Instagram @UpperFeast to prove that his neighborhood, the Upper East Side of Manhattan, has incredible food. Now he upperfeast’s everywhere. Using his midwest charm and comedic sensibilities Anthony makes fun videos showcasing his favorite restaurants.

Anthony’s friends also make him food on his YouTube channel, Upper Feast @ Home.